tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9297210.post8663739381585943058..comments2023-10-12T06:08:05.804-07:00Comments on The Second Half: I may have gone a bit overboardCarolhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07697664407174851116noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9297210.post-13190520824975023152008-06-26T15:44:00.000-07:002008-06-26T15:44:00.000-07:00Good grief. I just came here for the first time th...Good grief. I just came here for the first time through the link at dooce and suddenly got confused. I thought I was reading about myself. I am working through the same issues with my mom... including the (still beautiful) teak table and chairs and lowboy that I refuse to get rid of and nearly broke up over with my fiance when he pointed out that they would not look right stylistically in the dining room of a "country" house we were looking at, a very cool restoration of a barn. (Couldn't afford the house anyway.) And some of my mom's AND dad's ashes are still in baggies under my pillow. I about to start a marathon of clearing my garage that's still full of her things, even after making the people at Goodwill so happy last September (she died at the end of July). My therapist is urging me to make sure to take breaks and recreation each day or take some days off. It surely is draining and difficult. Hugs to you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9297210.post-36962996977322415362008-06-26T09:19:00.000-07:002008-06-26T09:19:00.000-07:00I always say that my ashes will end up for sale at...I always say that my ashes will end up for sale at a rummage sale one day. If I'm lucky. It's such pressure for people to deal with the ashes of their loved ones.<BR/><BR/>I read somewhere that Dorothy Parker's ashes drifted from office to office at the New Yorker for years because no one knew quite what to do with them. Don't know if that's true, but it seems plausible.<BR/><BR/>Great blog, excellent writing. You make me laugh. Thank you.belleplainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09732101397243159980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9297210.post-47139657402364548352008-06-26T08:01:00.000-07:002008-06-26T08:01:00.000-07:00I think spreading your Mom's ashes on a mountain t...I think spreading your Mom's ashes on a mountain top is a wonderful idea and you all have some beautilful mountains out there.Frankhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03213462654213512044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9297210.post-32467909744670162222008-06-21T13:39:00.000-07:002008-06-21T13:39:00.000-07:00Carol,I'm so glad you saved her ashes and are wait...Carol,<BR/>I'm so glad you saved her ashes and are waiting to spread them! And if you would like some extra support, I'll happily hike with you to the top of that mountain!<BR/><BR/>Can we please get together after Wednesday? My schedule is absolutely insane until then. xoxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9297210.post-87731387804664127062008-06-21T00:08:00.000-07:002008-06-21T00:08:00.000-07:00Lurker stopping to say:This writing leaves me brea...Lurker stopping to say:<BR/><BR/>This writing leaves me breathless; it is so well put together! I am not a writer in the least, but I know riveting writing when I come across it. <BR/><BR/><BR/>I'm glad that your mother's ashes will have a more lovely new home. Most times we just have to work through things. Good job figuring out which direction to work in!<BR/><BR/>Lorelei (Seattle)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9297210.post-50534204284006934902008-06-20T18:49:00.000-07:002008-06-20T18:49:00.000-07:00Did you read "The Higher Power of Lucky"? (Kid's b...Did you read "The Higher Power of Lucky"? (Kid's book shmid's book.)<BR/><BR/>xoPsycho Kittyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05633634991906191853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9297210.post-918995825153026772008-06-20T09:45:00.000-07:002008-06-20T09:45:00.000-07:00I understand your reasoning behind wanting to toss...I understand your reasoning behind wanting to toss your mom's small amount of ashes, but I'm glad you retrieved it. I think you 'might' have regretted it later. I'm not one for keeping ashes stored on a shelf or in a closet, though. The ashes are a part of where your mom lived her days, but it's not your mom. Why don't you set it free (the ashes) - the mountain is a beautiful idea. For that matter you could launch the ashes into the air at any place that meant something to you. My father just passed away two weeks ago and we are dividing up his ashes into three places that meant a lot to him, including the sidelines of the football stadium in my hometown where he covered the football team for over 35 years. But good for you and working through the stuff in your room. You'll wonder why you didn't do it sooner. I also appreciate what you are doing with this cleanse program. I honestly don't think I could do that, for that long. Have a good weekend!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9297210.post-33843558388308710532008-06-20T08:57:00.000-07:002008-06-20T08:57:00.000-07:00This is a great post. My mother died 15 years ago...This is a great post. My mother died 15 years ago, and I have much less to remember her by (which, per your article, might be a good thing in terms of feng shui), but I still keep a kleenex with her lipstick blot on it in a box with her pearls. Never gonna let that go -- but it would be fine to spread her ashes if I'd had them. I applaud your efforts to clean up and clean out. xoxomireillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02012296353550408831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9297210.post-90063846354263064022008-06-20T08:46:00.000-07:002008-06-20T08:46:00.000-07:00my house makes me feel the same way. which would e...my house makes me feel the same way. which would explain why i feel like crap and never want to be there and as a result don't feel grounded. god, i have to clean. ugh.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05270623275396327459noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9297210.post-62048566861867027642008-06-20T05:19:00.000-07:002008-06-20T05:19:00.000-07:00I think that Heather may be a bad influence.(Can y...I think that Heather may be a bad influence.<BR/><BR/>(Can you hear me speaking in my mom voice?)<BR/><BR/>I'm kidding - and I'm glad you didn't recycle your mom. But I do think she should go on a shelf in the basement or the top of a closet, okay?blackbirdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05474831322702380602noreply@blogger.com